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    When she cries herself to sleep
    six out of seven nights a week you must
    say nothing. You must simply take
    her in your arms and kiss her gaunt,
    pale cheeks and wait for her to
    slumber at the sound of your heart.


    On the days where she wishes she
    were part of the stars, tell her
    no. Tell her that there are too many
    lights in the sky and that just one
    would be forgotten the moment you looked
    away from it. Tell her that she is perfect
    the way she is: completely human.


     Don't let her think about the scars
     that no one but her can see. If she
     says "I think I'm broken" smile like you
     know a secret and say, "No, you're mending."
     But do not be the one to fix her - no, she
     must be the one to do it herself, and you
     merely are there to quietly encourage her.


     Read her poetry (even if you are
     not a poet), the kind that uses
     flowery words and compares girls to
     the moon; the kind that you will
     rewrite for her. Make her a warrior.
     Make her a goddess with eyes like a
     wolf's and a smile like a tiger's.


     Laugh with her the first thing in
     the morning and the last thing before
     you fall asleep. Tell her cheap puns
     that you've been thinking of for weeks.
     And when she smiles - the type of smile
     that could bring you to your knees if
     you aren't careful - know that for the
     moment, she's yours. She is whole.


    Love her. Love her like a fish loves
    the sea or a bird loves the sky. Love
    her in the way that your heart feels like
    it's going to burst at any moment every
    time it beats. Love her skin and the way
    it feels against your own, soft and warm
    and utterly flawless. Love her for the way
    her voice trembles when she can't keep it
    together anymore and love her when she
    holds onto you as if you were the only
    thing that was keeping her alive.


     Love her, because some days she just can't do it herself.

Edit four: PLEASE FUCKING READ THIS BEFORE COMMENTING. I really didn't want this to get as popular as it did. People don't understand the meaning behind it. This is not about romance, people. This is not solely about a man comforting a woman. This is about love. Family love, friends loving each other, and yes, lovers--but for me, this was written about family. I want my family to be there for me. Maybe the way I wrote this came off too much as lovey-dovey but it's not meant to be that way. I am female and therefore I wrote it from that perspective. If I was a guy I'd write it from that perspective. So stop getting your panties in a fucking twist and then getting into arguments with other people. I hate all the negativity in here. It makes me want to delete my work. I know this is the internet and that we can't be mature but come on--can we at least try?! I don't reply to all the comments but I do look at them and see the shit that goes down and it disappoints me highly. Also, I swear to god if I get one more creepy note from some weirdo about how they'll "take care of me" I am reporting you to dA. Not that it'll do anything. Just...please. Stop. Be mature. Be kind to others in the comments. Don't think that your opinion is the only one that matters because it's not. and always read the description because it will most likely answer any question you have about the meaning behind the poem. I'm sorry if this comes off as harsh and bitchy but I have had enough.

EDIT THREE: Oh shit why did this get a DD I didn't want this to be that popular it's not even that good I mean I'm flattered but oh fuck I don't deserve it.


EDIT: Front page?! Get this off it doesn't belong there.

I'm trying to be positive. 

I don't know if it'll work but I can still try.

(I wouldn't call this romantic because love doesn't always have to be.)

This is all I want someone to do for me but since it's not going to happen, I'll just have to do it myself and shake off those bad days like they're nothing but unwanted dirt.
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Daily Deviation

Given 2014-05-30
How to love a girl who can't love herself. by PrussianPersephone truly captures the simplicity of loving another, even when they refuse to love themselves.  Also suggested by ChinZaPep ( Suggested by Waffles-Of-Gondolyn and Featured by inknalcohol )
aggrofire1233 Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Perfect in every single way.
2centseandlovetogive Featured By Owner Edited Dec 26, 2015  New Deviant Professional Writer
I don't feel like this alplies to all girls, like this title implies, just the opinion of a girl who indeed has trouble loving herself.

There are nights when I cry my self to sleep, those are the nights when I feel the need to talk about it the most.

When I wish I could join the stars, I need to be told "don't be stupid”, I don't like things too sugarcoated, and I need to be told how much I am loved here.

If I tell you I am broken, tell me its just a crack. A joke will make me feel fixed.

Ahhh... Poetry is nice, its hard to argue that one

Five, five is a good one.

I find 6 to be rather moot seeing this is about how to love saying "love her" doesn't teach much its like if some one were to ask me how to write a book and I said "Write"

Same to 7

I feel like this was a good post, but the title makes it sound like this is what all girls need but the fact is not all girls are the same, these steps might work for one girl and or guy but no one is the same
RoninxTemari Featured By Owner Nov 25, 2015  Professional General Artist
You submitted this on my birthday. (I'm sorry I couldn't comment on this sooner.) And you're right, love isn't always romantic. I'm glad you realize that, because not a lot of people understand that.
WordlessJoe Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2015
Really beautiful and touching.  Well done!
danyelarry Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2015
this is beautiful my love. Make me cry XX
Superfuntymuy Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
VioletTutu Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2015
I love it, I start to cry reading this, it was beautiful. 
VorVixen Featured By Owner Aug 25, 2015
Thank you. I can't tell you what it's like when something like this comes along and makes you feel a little less alone and like someone knows.
cutetango Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
It's beautiful and I get it.
CaptainMockingjay42 Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I think this is one of my favorite "list" poems! Little Pixel Heart Tard Boogie - now a plz 
I really loved reading it, and I was really touched by number 4. It makes me want to write one of these kinds of poems too.   I also like how number seven is just one short sentence. It's a really powerful way to end it.
thinking-hard Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I thought it was between lovers at first, but after I read your edit and said it was about family, I can see that also. I'm not here to criticize or anything just to say when I read this, tears came to my eyes because it touched me. Just wanted to let you know that :) and that you are a great poet
GlassMuses Featured By Owner Jul 4, 2015
You are a poet, not just in your poem, but in the description as well. "...shake off those bad days like they're nothing but unwanted dirt." Wow. You get your point across in a way people can feel, not just understand.
I hope things have gotten better for you. If you ever want to talk to someone who won't judge you, who you won't have to face and remember what you told when you bump into them in a store or work or school, message me. Sometimes talking to random people who I'll never see helps me.
chely13107 Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I am sorry to hear that this became controversial at any point. Why? is it because they cannot understand the depth of the cracks within the hearts of those who cannot forgive themselves? Or maybe because they have never felt that deeply. I don't mean to offend. I only question why? I personally loved it. No because it is the greatest thing I ever read, but because it very possibly could be. Because it is insight. How do you love a girl who cannot love herself? With forgiveness and love, I agree. You need not understand the depth of her despair, or the sharpness of the blades she impales herself with. You need only understand that if she were not so tortured by the choices she has made, she would not be a good soul. So you forgive her for things she cannot forgive herself for, you forgive her for the things she has done, and for the things she has yet to do. You love her enough to understand that when the raging screams in her own heart and in her own head will not cease their accusations, your heartbeat and soft touch will dull the sounds and calm her spirit. I like your piece very much. well done!
LeeRose20 Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
thank you
shadowdjinni Featured By Owner Jun 19, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
This is beautiful. It takes a lot for me to choke up just reading something, but the message here is one I connect to, and I nearly cried when I read the fourth stanza. This poem is a heartbeat captured in words, and it is beautiful and needs more people to read it and understand.
Paranormalgirl06 Featured By Owner Jun 12, 2015
I am a girl who can't love herself. This made me cry. This sums up everything that I wish would happen to me. 
Poemgirl15 Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
I just cried when I read this...beautiful. <3
TuliPoodle Featured By Owner May 16, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
This is so deep ❤️👏🏼
13narutofan Featured By Owner May 2, 2015
Just wanted to say I really like how you wrote this. It has a really good meaning and is very well written. I also like how you didn't make it too specified towards family members, friends, or lovers, but rather it could be any of them. I really like it! :)
ZombieToofer Featured By Owner Apr 23, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Pretty sure I LOVE THIS. Thank you for writing it. And I don't remember if I didn't get it before and thought of it as being too lovey-dovey, but I am not the same person as I was back then anyway. I totally understood this. Great job.
QQI25 Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
:tighthug: I love this so much. This is amazing and so true. 
Harry-Topper Featured By Owner Apr 3, 2015
Very useful and helpful.
Gladddragon Featured By Owner Edited Mar 31, 2015  Student Digital Artist
If HE only knew what you know....Read my journal entries and you will understand....

There is hope for man...
F47P4W5 Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You put me down to tears... Yooooooou areeeee amazing!
PleaseImJustaGirl Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2015
 Still, So much better Now, a Miracle From darkness to Light. I Have Been Reborn.
JadaWise Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015
I am about to cry. You did such an awesome work. 
ibanez0r Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2015
that is really beautiful, thank-you
flowerslogan Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2015  Student Photographer
im sorry but i can intrupt this as both family but in a romantic since to. but all in all its really great and made me cry because i am a girl who cant love her self and so while reading this im like yes yes and yes
yzel07 Featured By Owner Jan 15, 2015
TopazMyst Featured By Owner Jan 10, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
This is so beautiful <3
Sakura-Yotobari Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Beautiful <3 
musicbxgirl5 Featured By Owner Dec 25, 2014  Student
Thank you.
Sometimes, I am not that girl. But most days, I am. And I wish that people would understand.
SurrealNacre Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
how i feel about my family <3 lovely poetry
DeathNoteChick612 Featured By Owner Nov 20, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
This is beautiful.  Thank you for sharing. :)
PleaseImJustaGirl Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2014
 OH! Prussian I cried when I read this, this is what my Family is doing for me now and I actually forget to thank them. I'm so Wretched.
SnowLeopard84 Featured By Owner Mar 19, 2015
Forgetting isn't a bad thing; you're not wretched, 'cos when you realized it, you felt bad! Also, I'm glad your family is there for you, and I wish you good luck!
TheFallingRiot Featured By Owner Nov 15, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
" But do not be the one to fix her - no, she must be the one to do it herself." It always hurts to hear such things but this calmed me as my eyes read on, " And you merely are there to quietly encourage her."
Demonic-Fantasy Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2014  Student General Artist
lucarloroq Featured By Owner Sep 27, 2014
Loved this poem, it really touched me. Made me remember of my best friend, who is fighting  against depression (just like me), i really love her, like the birds love the sky, but i just don't know what to do, and it makes me sick. 
Mivzz Featured By Owner Sep 25, 2014
It's simply amazing!
Abeer-Kasiri Featured By Owner Sep 21, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
woww this brought tears :D awwwwwwww
Henour Featured By Owner Sep 16, 2014
I'm sorry but its too good to avoid faving it :p
rammstein-girl-97 Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2014
Beautifully written, I hope your healing and have family to help you. I can relate to your feelings, my family and friends help me heal too, and I'm learning how to fix myself.

"EDIT THREE:" You're a really good writer, so truthful and beautiful don't doubt yourself. :) 
blueskye13 Featured By Owner Aug 31, 2014
I'm sorry that someone has not done this for you as yet, hopefully they have by now or will soon. But this poem is beautiful and I know it will probably help lots of people who love someone who is depressed. Depression is so much more serious than people understand.

I particularly like the structure of your verses - the enjambment emphasises all the prettiest and most important words. It's really well done.
bitteryetsweet Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2014
You were trying to be positive in this? I can appreciate the effort. I'm up for fresh, new perspectives towards the things we've already known to enlighten myself, and it's kind of rewarding. And it's applicable, so there's a bonus.

All of that said, I wish you clarified the meaning of this whole deviation first thing before posting it. And you getting a Daily Deviation because of this isn't about you deserving it; everyone else here appreciates your effort to be positive too. I just wanted to let you know that, and we're very grateful to have you here.

We hope to see you soon!Hi! 
Shinseinasenshi Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
"Don't let her think about the scars
     that no one but her can see. If she 
     says "I think I'm broken" smile like you
     know a secret and say, "No, you're mending."
     But do not be the one to fix her - no, she
     must be the one to do it herself, and you
     merely are there to quietly encourage her."

Amen...   No one should "fix" anyone. But It's also not "your" job to better yourself - "yourself" That's God's job. and Until you submit to Him through His Son, you are just living a life of hopeless dreams that will never happen.

Read her poetry (even if you are
     not a poet), the kind that uses
     flowery words and compares girls to
     the moon; the kind that you will
     rewrite for her. Make her a warrior.
     Make her a goddess with eyes like a
     wolf's and a smile like a tiger's."

Again...   If you want someone to "worship" you, and you believe you may find them one day, you are simply putting yourself in a bad triangulation dynamic where you are looking for a "rescuer" Bad Guy seeks Victim seeks Rescuer seeks Bad Guy....  If you want to live a life that's worth something and understand what "Love" is you need to understand the Root of where it comes from and who designed it. Not to mention understand that if you place anything on an equal or higher tier than the Love you have for your Creator, you are doomed to fail in your relationships.

Every Time.

Read Danny Silk's "Keep Your Love On" and you will understand the nature of what I speak and WHY Jesus loves you more.....

More than anyone in your life.

and when you come to understand this, you will find someone who is the same. :)
and you will be at peace. 
vonsilvo Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014
Such beauty, such truth.
AintGotNoLegs Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
There are too many of us women having too many bad days. We were born with a sadness inside us that never goes away. What you wrote is beautiful, touching, and relatable. Thank you for it. It is something that not only I, but anyone else who needs it, can read and know they aren't alone. 
Nightshade-Galaxy Featured By Owner Jul 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
LOLOLOL I'm sorry I loved this I was sitting here, like that was beautiful.

And then I saw the description and you like killed the mood. That was hilarious,  "Oh shit why did this get a DD I didn't want this to be that popular it's not even that good I mean I'm flattered but oh fuck I don't deserve it." This was one of my favorite parts "
EDIT: Front page?! Get this off it doesn't belong there." This was the second one- I can't stop laughing at the reaction.

Beautiful poem, and I hope things are better off in the comments for you don't deserve that :aww:
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